Friday, July 12, 2013

Should Sleeping Daddies be Left to Lie?

This pic is not the lady looking for her father
just a pic of a sad little girl.

From Expat in the City
I am half American, half Kuwaiti. I live in the U.S. I was adopted at 3 days old by a wonderful family. I never knew either of my birth parents, but when I turned 18 I located and met my birth mother. She lied to me about who my biological father was, she took it to her grave. She is now deceased. Through much determination and digging, I recently discovered my birth father was from Kuwait. I have no idea who he was, as I don't know his name. I have closure in this situation since I now know where I came from, but there is a lingering need to still find out who he was. I have no idea how to go about doing that. I have a few clues to follow, but that's it. My birth mother was in Kuwait for about 7 months in 1979 and was involved with a Kuwaiti man. She came back to the U.S. pregnant. I'm not sure if my birth father even knows I exist. If anyone knows anything that can possibly help me, please let me know! Thanks!
A reader commented (see above) on the post: Half and Half: When your Dad is Kuwaiti and your Mom is not... a few days ago and I've wanted to help her find closure ever since.  Not knowing what to do as an American myself I've Tweeted out for information to our followers, given her Fajer's email (legal counsel) from Mark's blog and put my excellent research skills to good use. 
The truth is that she knows very little about her Father but she is desperate to try and locate him.  Her Mother was a 19 year old American girl visiting Kuwait in 1979 with a friend.  Her name is Judy and she had red hair, white skin and blue eyes.  She was put up at the Sheraton Hotel the entire time of her stay.  Apparently Judy fell in love with an older Kuwaiti man and became pregnant after a seven month relationship.  

Mark of also published the story. I was surprised at some of the comments it got. I mean why would she lie when the truth can be verified by DNA. Why shouldn't she try to find out the truth she has every right, doesn't she? How many men can afford to put a woman up in the Sheraton for 7 months but can't afford child support, a gift at Eid or a postage stamp for a letter.

Have found a blog via www.248am and kindly posted by CrazyinKuwait called Kuwaiti Children Left Behind. Might be helpful to a few.

And here's a daddy who is trying to do something about his lost little girl...



  1. AnonymousJuly 13, 2013

    Hi, I am the girl who is researching my biological father. Thank you for sharing my story. Do you have any suggestions based on the info and clues that I have? I responded to a post on the 248am blog from someone who mentioned some interesting info, but they haven't responded back. I don't want to mention specifically what they said here, in case it's a false lead. If you have any info to share and would like me to email you, I can do that too. Thanks!

    1. Hi Anon, I would love to help in any way I can but sadly, as yet, I have no info. If anyone should email me or contact me I will certainly contact you immediately. Good luck in your search sweetheart. Maybe if you publish here an email it might prompt someone to contact you directly.

  2. Hi, I have set up a email address for my search. I can be reached at if anyone should have info or advice. Thanks!


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