Friday, May 4, 2012

A Kuwaiti Wedding for the Maid and Driver


p8a A Kuwaiti wedding for the maid!
The newlyweds beam from their wedding cake.
KUWAIT TIMES: A Kuwaiti family held a wedding for their newly married household helpers! The driver and the maid, both Asians, had fallen in love and wanted to marry. Unlike the typical reaction by many families, who would deny this request of marriage or any kind of passionate relationship among the household employees, this family agreed to bless the marriage and even held a wedding in one local ballrooms at their expense to express their happiness and good wishes for the newly married couple.
When this news came to the media, it was a matter of a few laughs and good comments because it is not every day you witness things like that here! Why is that? Because we are familiar with news of crimes, suicides, runaways and abuse. In my long experience covering many stories about maids in Kuwait, this incident is only the second I have heard of in ten years.
Now, maybe there have been some marriages of the same that have occurred among domestic workers, but not with a wedding and pictures taken. That is really something new, although it is very appreciative and a great gesture of kindness and sympathy by this Kuwaiti family. It is very common that families, Kuwaitis or not, do not welcome relationships among their employees out of fear that sex will lead to pregnancy of the maid and troubles for the family and the workers in front of the law. That can be understood, but also it should not be a reason for any family to deny marriage proposals by their workers.
Like any workplace, passionate relations are not encouraged in the house and in fact it is not the right place for ethical reasons. A domestic worker, a maid or a driver or anyone else, is expected to do a job which they get paid for and not to practice a romance. Yet, a romance with good and honest intentions can occur in any place, at work or outside, maid or a driver.
For our newly married couple here today, the ending was happy and with a ballroom and a band. Both were thrilled to see their sponsor helping them to fulfill their dream and give them the chance to enjoy their big day. Happy wishes to the new couple!
By Muna Al-Fuzai


LWDLIK - That's got to be the sweetest thing I've heard in a while. After reading the newspaper headlines and thinking we we're being plunged into the 15th century - this was a breath of fresh air.


7 comments:

  1. AnonymousMay 04, 2012

    I have asked all labor recruitment offices i know in india to recruit a driver/maid(or cook) husband and wife team forever.
    Happy employees make more productive employees.

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  2. AnonymousMay 04, 2012

    After all the bad news posted in Kuwait on the way domestic helpers are treated, this story made this 42year old guy blub... Awww. Fair play to these employers.

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    1. It is a very sweet story.

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    2. AnonymousMay 07, 2012

      Beautiful story, I have always wondered why people in this region don't consider employing couples here so that their family lives are not broken up. It would limit so many other problems that occur as a result of men and women living single lives here. I'm talking STD's etc.

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  3. Very few actually come together as one often stays in the homeland with kids-
    It's sad really. As you say, happy people work better.
    I know of one couple here that work- she is the maid and her husband is the driver. They have been here 10 years- she has got pregnant once- delivered baby and then sent it to her sister- awful IMO-
    She has seen her baby three times in ten years. I appreciate some people have no other choice but... We have children and are blessed with them.. And they need us... Not aunts or uncles in our place..

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    1. Heartbreaking :O(

      The love of your children could drive anyone to strive for a better life for them. We are so very blessed to have our children next to us but we see this sort of sad hardship everyday in Kuwait.

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Always great to hear from you :O)